Some pictures and an update!

I can’t believe it’s January 2012!

I’ll be posting more recent updates soon, and my resolution is to post regularly.

I also am embarrassed at how much updating I have to get caught up on…I seem to always forget that Thanksgiving time launches us all into a blustery season of activity.  Last I mentioned here I was heading out to Cincinnati to be with my friends one week after the new addition to their already amazingly active family tree.  My good friend Rachel was able to rest while I tended the big sisters, and Britt (Rachel’s husband) had to be back to work.  It was an amazing whirlwind, lots of cooking and crafts, never got to any seed planting…but I did get my shining moment in the 30-minute dress up production of the princess and the pea.  It was an honor playing the nameless princess with best supporting actresses Avi and Ryan who played the roles of the “Livinia “(a long lost peasant princess), and “Chick ” (my mother the queen).  Azia the littlest big sister enjoyed picking my costumes (the only bits that fit me were loose pieces of tule and crowns), and then snatching them back to wear herself.

It was my duty to keep these busy ladies occupied, and Rachel got a chuckle herself when she saw me running around distracting them and trying to multi-task meal making.  “It made me think that if you’re that busy with them all the time, I must look like that too!”  I think therein we found her reasoning for being okay with a postpartum doula, and not having so much guilt or pressure on herself to bounce back from her healing time.  Being mom is non-stop business.

Their little guy Israel was beautiful and healthy, and in perpetual need of Rachel.  My role was only a temporary lightening. Here are some fun shots of our time together.  I took all the photos and Rachel granted me permission!

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Sibling Integration

I spent a few minutes talking with a new mother at work today. She shared her home birth story with me, and when I asked how her son was adjusting to the baby brother situation she was ecstatic! She told me her son was present during her labor and birth, and had been fascinated with it the entire time. She also mentioned how much he comforted her throughout her contractions, snuggling her in between, a making encouraging eye contact with her when the pushing got most intense.

I asked her what sort of educational preparation she used for her son. I was very intrigued to see what she deemed appropriate for her five year old. She smiled and said that they watched lots of animal birth movies, and the process just clicked with him.

I thought this was an amazing parenting skill for the integration of a sibling into the family. Drawing connection for big brother without being extremely graphic…and giving him time to process and prepare his young emotions for the arrival of new life, without it being a complete abstraction and shock to his regularity of life. Even books on baby animals might help develop an early understanding and connection for your child, whether you intend to have them present at your birth or not.

Choose favorite mammals. I went with one that shows the least amniotic fluid. Use your judgement! Dolphins are great if you have/had a water birth and your little one has questions.