I can’t believe it’s January 2012!
I’ll be posting more recent updates soon, and my resolution is to post regularly.
I also am embarrassed at how much updating I have to get caught up on…I seem to always forget that Thanksgiving time launches us all into a blustery season of activity. Last I mentioned here I was heading out to Cincinnati to be with my friends one week after the new addition to their already amazingly active family tree. My good friend Rachel was able to rest while I tended the big sisters, and Britt (Rachel’s husband) had to be back to work. It was an amazing whirlwind, lots of cooking and crafts, never got to any seed planting…but I did get my shining moment in the 30-minute dress up production of the princess and the pea. It was an honor playing the nameless princess with best supporting actresses Avi and Ryan who played the roles of the “Livinia “(a long lost peasant princess), and “Chick ” (my mother the queen). Azia the littlest big sister enjoyed picking my costumes (the only bits that fit me were loose pieces of tule and crowns), and then snatching them back to wear herself.
It was my duty to keep these busy ladies occupied, and Rachel got a chuckle herself when she saw me running around distracting them and trying to multi-task meal making. “It made me think that if you’re that busy with them all the time, I must look like that too!” I think therein we found her reasoning for being okay with a postpartum doula, and not having so much guilt or pressure on herself to bounce back from her healing time. Being mom is non-stop business.
Their little guy Israel was beautiful and healthy, and in perpetual need of Rachel. My role was only a temporary lightening. Here are some fun shots of our time together. I took all the photos and Rachel granted me permission!
Make ahead and freeze! These are a great thing to pull out in a pinch, I do it for when I work early mornings and have only enough time to pull myself together and get out the door. Versatile too, add your own veggie combos based on what is available to you seasonally, or is on it’s last leg in the fridge! Enjoy and thanks to One Family Meals for this recipe link!
These individual, crustless quiches are perfect for families on the go. Whip up a batch (or two) on Sunday evening, and you have an easy go-to breakfast for busy weekday mornings. They’re also really versatile – this version features spinach and mozzarella, but cooked broccoli and cheddar or crispy bacon can easily be substituted or added!
1 tbsp olive oil
1/4 cup yellow onion, diced
1/4 cup green bell pepper, diced
1 cup baby spinach leaves, roughly chopped
1/2 cup mozzarella cheese, shredded
1/4 cup milk
1 tsp kosher salt
freshly ground pepper
Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees.
Line a muffin tin with foil baking cups and spray with cooking spray (or simply spray the muffin tin directly with cooking spray). In a medium frying pan, heat olive oil over medium-low heat, then add onion and green peppers. Saute, stirring occasionally, until vegetables begin to soften, about 3 minutes. Add spinach leaves and stir until spinach has wilted, about 2 minutes. Transfer vegetable mixture to a bowl and allow to cool slightly. Add cheese.
Whisk together eggs, milk, salt and pepper, then pour over the vegetable-cheese mixture and stir to combine. Divide evenly among 6 muffin cups.
Bake until cupcakes have set, about 20 minutes. The cupcakes will puff during cooking and then deflate slightly as they cool.
I just started a twitter for quick linking to great resources, and daily inspirations from Mom’s I work with.
Let’s all follow follow.
Just home after a weekend watching over a small farm for some friends. This city girl got in touch with her farm strength performing the chores. Talk about finding the positive endorphins at 5am! When I was getting the tutorial on how things should be done in the family’s absence, my friend explained how she ended up with her two sheep that were off grazing in the pasture. “They pretty much just eat grass all day, you won’t need to worry about anything but water for them. They’re the pets. I got them to help me through postpartum depression with my second.”
You might not have the room, or desire for such a pet…but I thought it was so neat that she allowed herself to feel a need in her transition, and do something about it! She said they’re therapeutic value hasn’t faded yet as they graze the same time every night while she’s making dinner, right outside her kitchen window.
Seek ye some inspiration mommies! You deserve it, perhaps it’s as simple as buying yourself a new album by your favorite band, or finding a really good blog that will bring you a daily bout of encouragement (not inferring that it’s this one- ha!).
That’s all for now.
Last month I had the joy of being in my dear friend’s kitchen, talking as I did the dishes and she nursed her new baby girl. The smell of zucchini bread wafted as we tried to problem solve, everything from sleep deprivation, to work scheduling (she owns a great local business), sibling rivalry for attention, and easy breakfast recipes. The conversation became somewhat circular as we defined that the only immediately curable item was the breakfast recipes…I could throw a bunch of quiche together to be frozen and eaten at her family’s leisure. The rest got subconsciously filed away as the messy bits of life, but I tried to remind her to take it easy and nest in a bit. She said with the third child it’s a little easier to just “resume life”, which she wasn’t sure was good or not. Jumping right back in after any birth, might have the appearance of “togetherness” and feel right culturally, but she was questioning the health in it, where her bond with the baby and then family was. Ultimately, I think in our human nature we adapt regardless, but my friend here was acknowledging the struggle to be conscious of the type of transition she wanted to be making into this new tier of motherhood. I admire her for that. Nesting in, and checking on bonding status is vital to a postpartum experience, and often rushed over.
Last night my yoga instructor even said she’s started “incorporating mistakes” into her practice. She says she fears them so much the only way she can choose to get over that fear is by planning or choosing to expect the mistake making. I think we can all learn from this, especially valiant new moms. You’re hitting a learning curve and healing all at once; move at a speed that’s comfortable, write lists on your dry erase board…what you don’t get to will get done. Napping is a priority.
Also don’t be afraid to ask your friend to stock you up on quiche.
Or go shopping for items like these.
About the purpose of this blog:
As the oldest of two brothers in my family, I took interest in being a nurturer from the get go. By the age of 10 I was an accomplished “Mother’s helper”, and moved onto the independence of babysitting in my early teen years. I took interest in what I heard moms’ talking about; lack of sleep, body issues, relational woes, breast-feeding, solid foods, the color of diaper poo, and deep love for their offspring. I was typically amazed by these stories told by amazing women in the midst of extreme life multi-tasking. I was eager to be helping, and idolized my best friend who was about five years ahead of me when she pursued work as a birth doula. As I matured, I got to hear these amazing women share their birth stories, even more impressed, I started hearing the similar life experiences around town from women I was less familiar with. I could hear the tone in conversation at the local coffee shops and during waits in lines at the grocery store. While I was nannying I picked up on the excitable tones in these women as they spoke of that magical doula character (I really thought these only existed on the west coast, where my bestie had run off to). It was “Oh my doula, told me about the most amazing book!” ” Oh, my doula was an amazing guide for new birth positions throughout the labor.” and “Oh! Who was your doula?!” I borrowed their expression and coined it into the phrase most obviously heading up this blog address and title. Not to mock, but to share the expression of delight mother’s have been exclaiming since the rediscovery of this archetypal birth servant/ postpartum supporter. This blog, I hope will serve both families and professional doulas in a hearty way. With knowledgable research finds, healthy sentiment, and wholesome recipes.
Photo credit for banner: Erin Wingerden